A Child Faces Grief Too
God has made life on earth with family and in a Community. He did this so that, each of us can experience love, organization and appreciation of the things that He’s given us. These things were given to us, to make us feel happy, respected, protected, and satisfied as we enjoy the fun and fellowship of being together. This fellowship is based on our personal fellowship with God himself. It is the reason that the first of the Ten Commandments is to “love the Lord your God with all your heart…” Knowing and loving God is the foundation of good relationships between people.
When someone dies, we experience the loss of this fellowship—especially when it is the death of someone that we know and are close to. It makes us feel unsure about our own lives, and causes us to feel scared and overwhelmed by fear. But sometimes after the death of someone in our fellowship or Community circle, adults fail to pay real attention to the feelings and to the mood changes of the children and youth of our families and Communities.
If you are a child or young person who has felt ignored during times of death in the Community, God wants you to know that you can speak directly to Him about your sorrow and sadness. He is waiting for you to speak to Him about your fear; about being unsure because of what has happened, and what you think can or will happen. In fact, the fear that you feel and the sorrow that makes you angry, or sad, and the feelings that make you cry, are all tools that God has given you to you to remind you that He is calling out to you, and listening to you. God wants you to know that you are not alone. God said that you should “call out to Him and He will answer you and show you things that you do not understand.”
God knows that when death happens, that children suffer emotionally too. He promised to “never leave you or abandon you.” You should find a place where you can be alone and speak to God. Tell Him how you feel and listen for how God calmly sends answers inside of the same heart—your heart—that you think is breaking. He is speaking healing to your heart and giving you confidence to continue growing up and contributing, in ways that are good, to the heath and fellowship of the family and the Community. Tell God that you do not want your anger or sorrow and sadness, to stop you from being what you want to be. Ask Him to show you His plan for your life and how to do it, and to be what He has made you to be. God knows and cares that you face sadness, sorrow and sometimes anger too. Let Him help you.
